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How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce

A divorce can be trying under any circumstance — after all, you’ve gone from thinking you’re going to spend the rest of your life with someone to realizing that your life would be better off without them. And nearly 40% of couples in the UnIted States end up in this unenviable position. While many couples manage to separate with relative ease, all too many are stuck in a state of conflict, arguing about everything from children to china.

At Southlake Counseling, one of our areas of expertise is couples counseling, which includes helping couples out of high-conflict divorces. Under the direction of Kimberly Krueger, our team of passionate and dedicated therapists understands all too well how quickly a divorce can get derailed into very ugly territory, and we work with couples to restore the peace.

If you’re in a high-conflict divorce, here’s a look at how we can help.

A neutral party

There are many reasons why seeking help for a high-conflict divorce is a good idea, not the least of which is the value of having a neutral party involved.

High-conflict divorces are often wrought with mistrust, anger, aggression, and the idea that there’s something to be won or to be defended at all costs. In this toxic atmosphere of fear and anger, small issues become very large, very quickly.

As a neutral, yet compassionate, third party, our therapists are there to keep things moving forward in a productive and constructive manner that benefits everyone involved.

The role of DBT

One of the tools we turn to when we help couples navigate high-conflict divorces is dialectical behavioral training, or DBT.

This therapeutic technique is designed to help couples undo harmful behaviors and reframe negative emotions and reactions. Through DBT, couples learn how to de-escalate potentially volatile situations by using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques.

Not only does DBT help couples better navigate the divorce, the benefits of this process serve them well for years to come if they’re co-parenting.

New Ways for Families®

If your high-conflict divorce involves children, we turn to a highly effective program called New Ways for Families. At the heart of the program are the 4 Big Skills™, which include:

Through building these skills, our hope is to:

The bottom line is that divorces can become high conflict easily and the sooner you seek our help, the better the rest of your journey will be. To learn more about navigating a high-conflict divorce, please contact one of our offices in Charlotte or Davidson, North Carolina, to set up a consultation.

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