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When to Seek Counseling for a Stressful Divorce

When you say, “I do,” and embark on a marriage, failure is the farthest thing from your mind during these early, happy times. Unfortunately, relationships can disintegrate for any number of reasons, and anger can replace love very quickly.

If you find yourself in a stressful or high-conflict divorce, Kimberly Krueger, MSW, LCSW, and the team of highly trained therapists and counselors here at Southlake Counseling can help.

Through our high-conflict divorce counseling, our goal is to help your family heal and move forward, leaving the pain, stress, and anger behind. Here’s a look at when this approach may be best for your situation.

Defining a high-conflict divorce

When it comes to defining a high-conflict divorce or separation, there’s no one-size-fits-all definition, but there are some general rules of thumb.

Whatever the reason for your split, you may find that your love has turned to resentment and you’re struggling to resolve issues, such as:

Sorting through these necessary arrangements and coming to an agreement is stressful under normal circumstances. When a relationship has fallen apart and there are issues with trust, anger, betrayal, grief, or even violence, resolution becomes far more difficult.

Signs of a high-conflict divorce

Here again, there are no set signs of a high-conflict divorce, but we often see the following behaviors among our clients:

These characteristics are what lead to emotionally-wrought and drawn-out divorces that can drag on, leaving a path of collateral damage in its wake.

When to seek help for your divorce

There are many instances in which high-conflict divorce counseling can play a valuable role in helping couples to dissolve their unions with the least amount of collateral damage and stress.

Unfortunately, most couples only seek help as a last resort, which is why we urge you to come see us at the first signs of conflict. Early intervention such as this can save you from months, if not years, of mounting stress as we work toward bringing both sides together in a neutral environment that emphasizes moving forward in a fair and productive way.

For example, to help break any stalemates in high-conflict divorces, we offer dialectical behavioral therapy for divorcing couples. This approach is designed to help both sides become more flexible in their beliefs and behaviors.

We also turn to New Ways for Families®, which is a structured program that puts children first and helps parents find ways to work together for their benefit. Unfortunately, high-conflict divorces are not only stressful for the couple that’s divorcing, but arguably more so for the children who are bystanders at best and pawns at worst.

Ultimately, the decision to seek counseling during your divorce is yours to make. That said, whether you’re just getting started on your divorce or you find yourselves in a situation where there seems to be no way out, this type of compassionate and experienced help can make all the difference for everyone involved.

If you’d like to learn more about high-conflict divorce counseling, please contact one of our three offices in Charlotte, Huntersville, or Davidson, North Carolina. 

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