High Conflict Divorce Specialist

Southlake Counseling

Mental Health Counseling & Psychologists/Therapists located in Davidson, NC & Charlotte, NC

The end of a marriage, even in the best circumstances, is a traumatic experience for a family. During a high conflict divorce, the risk of causing long-term trauma to you and your children increases. Kimberly Krueger, MSW, LCSW, and the team at Southlake Counseling in Charlotte and Davidson, North Carolina, offer individual and family counseling services, including dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and the New Ways for Families® program to help you and your family navigate a high conflict divorce. Call Southlake Counseling or schedule a consultation online today to help your family through this difficult time.

High Conflict Divorce

What is high conflict divorce?

While divorce usually causes conflict, hurt, and grief, in some cases, the breakup of your marriage can escalate to a high conflict situation where one or both parties behave aggressively toward one another and either unwittingly or on purpose, draw the children into the conflict. 

High conflict personalities often misunderstand their ex-partner’s words and behaviors. When they feel defensive, they go into attack mode and forget the well-being and needs of the children, as they focus on “winning.” 

Some of the signs of a high conflict divorce include:

  • Being inflexible in demands
  • Jumping to conclusions 
  • Taking or making issues personal
  • Placing blame
  • Turning small issues into arguments
  • Dragging conflict out


These issues are often prevalent in the early signs of a breakup, but if the problems are persistent and every conversation escalates into a fight, it’s time to get help. 

How can a counselor help my family through a divorce?

The team at Southlake Counseling offers personalized therapy in a safe, neutral environment for you and your family to explore and resolve the issues brought up by divorce. The team of compassionate, professional therapists offers dialectical behavior therapy or DBT to help you and the New Way for Families program for your family. 

DBT helps you get “unstuck” from rigid beliefs or thoughts and adjust your behaviors. The goals of therapy are to help you learn to resolve conflict calmly and with the best interests of your children in mind. In family therapy, you work as a unit to find mutually acceptable solutions to your problems and practice the skills needed to co-parent effectively, regardless of the feelings you and your ex have for each other.  

What is New Ways for Families?

New Ways for Families is a structured program to help you reduce the impact of your conflict on your children. Both you and your ex should complete the New Ways for Families program to reduce the conflict in your divorce and ensure that your children always come first. 

The New Ways for Families program usually includes six individual counseling sessions and three family sessions for you and your children. You practice flexible thinking, managing emotions, behavior modification, and checking yourself. Then, when you meet with your lawyers to negotiate the divorce, you both use these skills to make decisions that are the best for your children. 

Whether you’re in the early or later stages of high conflict divorce, the team at Southlake Counseling can help. Call or make an appointment online today.